Divorces, unfortunately, are sometimes deemed as a natural part of life. Making the decision to end a marriage is very difficult and there are a number of constraints that are involved within this decision making. While it is the separation of two married individuals, there might also be children involved who need to come to terms with the divorce in the healthiest possible way.
Tell the family
You and the other spouse must sit down before telling your family and resolve a few things before telling them. Ensure that no assets are hidden and that you are in agreement with the decision to go through the process. After this has been clarified, tell the family.
Discuss with the family about the process of the divorce and what will happen. Firstly, you will have to seek legal advice, make sure you have money to fund the divorce, choose what grounds the divorce falls under and then obtain it quickly through family law solicitors in order to go through a smooth process.
Divorces can last anywhere from 4-18 months. This all depends on how complicated the divorce is and how willing both spouses are to negotiate and work with each other. It’s important to note that divorces can’t go ahead if you have been married for less than a year.
Children
Children of divorce tend not to understand what is going on when they are first told about what is going to happen. It is natural for them to almost deny everything and pretend like it’s not happening, this is completely their decision. As a parent though, you must make yourself available to speak to your child about the whole process and make them aware that your relationship will not change.
The best thing that parents can do is come up with a plan that allows the child to be shared equally amongst them with the attention focused solely on them. If this cannot be done due to agitation between parents then the next stage would be mediation.
Housing issues
When a family goes through a divorce, one of the most complicated issues is normally housing. Dual income would normally have no problem covering the bills of a family home, however, with just one income coming into the family home it can sometimes cause issues as it doesn’t stretch far enough.
If a property is owned by both parties – even if they are divorced – can return the property. This is also similar to the mortgage payments, both parties, even if divorced must pay their half of the mortgage unless you can go through the courts to stop this or reach a civil agreement with your partner. In some cases, this can work as a short-term solution as bills are covered and it can sometimes allow for a smoother transition for the children.
Moving on
Divorces are a hard thing for anyone to go through, especially the children. In order to make this as easy as possible for them to understand, loose knots such as any legal concerns may be hindering any of the spouses. Both parents should sit down with their children and focus on not their mental health, as parents they should want to protect their youthful minds. The final thing you should work out in order to move on as a family is finances. Discuss child maintenance and be open and honest with each other about your income and what you can afford.
Divorce is not an easy task for families to go through. Follow the above tips to ensure that you can all come to terms with this process without too great an impact on your family.
