In life, there are no guarantees; just when you think you’ve got it all sorted out, life decides to play tricks on you, challenge you and surprise you so much so you think you won’t make it (this time around). But you do. And that’s fine – this life-imposed rollercoaster of emotion, chances, strengths and weaknesses is perfect for testing our personal limits and boundaries, always giving us the chance to self-reflect and build something quality out of every failure. And, if we’re smart enough, we learn from it. Self improvement is a never-ending job one must diligently focus on – not as a chore, rather, as a pathway to happiness and progress.
To all of you who understand and appreciate the importance of self-love and self-improvement but aren’t really sure on ways to achieve it, we’re giving you a few tips that will help you move forward:
Identify your blind spots/roots of your problems
If you don’t know what it is, you can’t solve it; the key to living a happy life and being in a constant progress is identifying your triggers and causes of those triggers, accepting them and solving them. Once you discover and understand the aspects of your personality that trigger negative emotions, reactions or subconsciously stop you from moving forward, you’ll discover what you should improve.
The best way to do this is to observe people and situations around you who have a negative effect on you, and try to single them out as “threat”. Then, slowly try to rationalize the reasons behind those particular triggers. If this is something you can’t do yourself, talk to someone. A professional will help you solve things and give you a series of exercise you can do yourself.
Write a letter to your future self
Everything you’ve got in your life this very second is everything you’ve created; all the feeling, desires, achievements, plans… it’s all a part of your life, as you’ve been living it. To put things into perspective, write your future self a letter and seal it. A year from now (or a few years from now, depending on how long in the future you’re observing yourself), open it. Don’t just write big things, but small desires, too. It’s all a part of you.
Make a date in your calendar to open it and immediately after you seal the letter, start working to become the person you want to open that letter. This is both an exercise of your strength and a fun thing to do.
Get into action
The best way to improve is to take action, whether we’re talking about mental or physical improvement (or both).
Is there something you’ve been wanting really bad, but you’ve been postponing to do it for some reason? Don’t you think it’s time you’ve done it immediately? Waiting doesn’t get anything done and it just prolongs your happiness.
Have you always wanted to pick up belly dancing? Do it! Love boxing? Try it? Were you planning to have lip injections but feared you’d be judged? Who cares! You want the extra fat off of your belly with liposuction? Do it! Experts in corrective surgery from Medaesthetics say their patients have had an increase in self-confidence and self-love after surgeries they’ve undergone, aside from just feeling better about their bodies. The 21st century is already very forgiving when it comes to procedures and even if it wasn’t, who cares? Do what makes you happy.
Acknowledge your flaws
We spend most of our lives living the idea of who we are then actually living in sync with who we are for real. There’s no such thing as a perfect person, so don’t get blindsided with people who seem like they’ve got it better than you do. To progress, acknowledge and accept your flaws, and address them. Once you become aware of them, you’ll be able to move into a happier reality, free of envy, rage, and dissatisfaction.
Quit a bad habit
Whether it’s smoking, binge eating, doing drugs, drinking, one night stands, lying, being late, nail biting… whatever destructive behavior you’ve been cultivating, stop doing it. Promise yourself you’ll be better and stronger than your bad habits and see yourself flourish.
Say goodbye to people who have been draining you emotionally and mentally. Surround yourself with positive people and enjoy life.